Sweet Sorrow

Sweet Sorrow

“Have you ever been in love?”  That was the question Celine Dion asked the world in 2002.  I was a senior at Mississinewa High School then, trying to find my purpose, wavering about my plans for my future.  Should I go to college or get married?  College won.  And marriage…well, that became a distant dream, something to hope for, something to dream of, but something that seemed so far out of my hands.  Well, that is, until today.

“I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”  -Harry Burns, When Harry Met Sally

I suppose that’s how it happened for Dan and me.  Meeting him was like sitting down to dinner with someone I had always known.  Looking across the table and realizing this was different than just any first date, any first meeting.

“It was like coming home… only to no home I’d ever known… It was like… magic.”  -Sam Baldwin, Sleepless in Seattle

And so it began.  A beautiful new season.  Dan’s story was one of love and loss.  His first wife died suddenly leaving behind four young children and for five years he had been a single dad, giving all of himself to meet all of their needs.  And me, well, I’d been pouring myself into my work, and my family, and my church, waiting for God.  Waiting for…I didn’t know what.

“There could have never been two hearts so open, no tastes so similar, no feelings so in unison, no countenances so beloved.”  Persuasion, Jane Austen

Love came easy.  And if first comes love, then second comes marriage.  So, on August 1st, 2015, I will become Ashley Frank- wife and mother.

But first, a history lesson:

Once upon time in 2010 a young woman took a job as a receptionist…and it changed her life.  I hired in to an office in transition.  The Executive Director was soon to retire and the Development Director was soon to step into that position.  I didn’t know anything about community foundations, endowments, scholarships, grants.  I just knew how to mail-merge and answer the phone.  Within two years, that new Executive Director (DawnBrown) saw the opportunity to put my bachelor’s degree to work and promoted me to Customer Care Coordinator, and then almost immediately to Program Manager.

And so it began.  A beautiful new season.  The more I learned the more I wanted to learn. Ever ambitious, in an environment designed for the creative soul to thrive, I began the ascent to top of the field in grant and scholarship management and administration.

You see, I’m an “all-in” type of person.   “Anything worth doing is worth doing right.”  And I loved the work.  I loved the process.  I loved the end result.  (Notice, reader, that I’m using the past tense.)

“It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.”  –Boyz II Men

Today is my last day at the Community Foundation of Grant County.  All along, I suppose I’ve known this was a temporary position.  Just a fabulous stop on my life’s journey.  I could not have loved it more.  The work.  The people.  The awesome team that’s been assembled here at 505 West Third Street.  (The Avengers have nothing on us!)  How can I pay proper tribute to the world’s greatest boss and mentor- DawnBrown?  Or my favorite accountant who makes me laugh daily and always has good words of encouragement- Sherri Rush?  And of course, my friend turned intern, turned co-worker, turned even better friend- Shelly Jones?

And to you, the Fabulous Foundation Followers who have joined me on the Grant County Community Corner for three years.  Sharing all the Fabulous Foundation news and accomplishments.  Who have walked with me through life lessons and car troubles and marathon training….how do I say goodbye?

“Parting is such sweet sorrow.”  -Romeo and Juliet Act 2, Scene 2

Have I mentioned that I’m an “all-in” type of person?  Just as the work here required all of me, so the next season will require my full attention.  I will be moving out of the county to start my new adventure in a new home with a new family.  I’m both terrified and excited.  As I imagine every new bride and new mother is.  But I am confident this my proper path.  I mean, just look at those adorable faces!


Thank you for sharing my life with me.  Thank you for all the comments and encouragement along the way.  For giving me an audience to write for.  And thank you, most of all, for reading.

  • Sherri
    Posted at 19:17h, 23 July Reply


  • lou lawson
    Posted at 07:19h, 24 July Reply

    Congratulations Ashley. My heart smiles for you. 🙂

  • Chad Leighty
    Posted at 08:26h, 29 July Reply

    I know that Ashley has already left the Foundation, but this was a very nice good bye and her compliments of the Foundation team are certainly spot on. I wish Ashley the best as she deserves a great adventure. Her shoes will be difficult to fill as she has orchestrated our scholarship program to an amazing level. I know what it is like to step into an immediate family and Ashley will have an amazing and challenging journey. I know Ashley’s “all-in” attitude will make her a wonderful mother and wife. Good luck and Congratulations!

    • Tempadmin
      Posted at 08:52h, 30 July Reply

      Well said, Chad. We couldn’t agree more!

  • Georgette Miller
    Posted at 16:33h, 21 August Reply

    Ashley, I know that as I write this you have already left the CF and are now that awesome wife and mother you described. I know that you are head-over-heels into your new life, busy and full of energy and chaos. I am sure you will (eventually) have time and will look back at what you wrote. This post brought both tears of joy (for your new family – they deserve you!!) and tears of sorrow (We will miss you at the CF!). I am so happy for you all that you and Dan have found each other. So happy that Dan’s little ones will have the guidance of such a devoted, strong, loving woman that you are to fill the void that was left when thier mother passed. Happy for Dan that he has found the perfect woman to be hs wife and mother for his children. God works miracles and I believe He orchestrated this one. It is of course, perfect, as only HE can do! Trials will come, but they are part of God’s plan. May He richly bless each of your lives in ways you cannot now image!

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